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Comment on How much is enough? by Rhonda Brown

Rhonda Brown — Thu, 11 Apr 2013 16:10:31 +0000

Terri, I think you are on to something in asking the question, “how much is enough”? A friend of mine said something that really hit home for me. “You can have it all, you just can’t have it all at the same time.” You and I are both very achievement oriented and it’s fun to compare our busyness. It’s also good to share our learnings and reflections when we decide to come up for air. Talk to you soon. Your sis.

Comment on How much is enough? by Mary Anne Connolly

Mary Anne Connolly — Mon, 08 Apr 2013 18:42:20 +0000

You warmed my heart (and my own journey) with this beautiful reminder of how far we have come (especially you!) Our moms are so proud of us…with great reason. And we are far too hard on ourselves for not doing it ALL, perfectly, every day…it’s amazing what we actually DO!!!

Comment on How much is enough? by Elizabeth MacLean

Elizabeth MacLean — Sat, 06 Apr 2013 15:19:25 +0000

Nice post, Terri. Thanks for sharing your personal reflections. Each of our personal and family histories are rich with significance, and when we stop to “connect the dots” it really does help put things into perspective. For me, it highlights both a sense of gratitude for the people in my family who came before me, and a sense of responsibility to those who will come after me. My children represent that link.

Comment on Politics, history and social change by Terri

Terri — Tue, 20 Nov 2012 21:33:19 +0000

I also blog about other topics, but I’m a political science professor so politics is my job!

Comment on Politics, history and social change by Mandy @ MoneyMasterMom

Mandy @ MoneyMasterMom — Tue, 20 Nov 2012 19:25:13 +0000

I found you via the Bloggy Moms Blog Hop, this is the only political blog on the list I believe. It’s awesome that you feel excited about the political future because I think a lot of people feel really frustrated with the whole system.

Comment on Why I will vote… by Voices on Voting: Why I will vote… | Flyover Feminism

Voices on Voting: Why I will vote… | Flyover Feminism — Mon, 05 Nov 2012 14:28:43 +0000

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Comment on It’s NOT just about women… by Terri

Terri — Wed, 24 Oct 2012 18:42:02 +0000

Thanks Scott — really appreciate your comments. I saw an article recently that complained about the fact that we talk about “working moms” but never about “working dads” – this whole discourse needs to change!

Comment on It’s NOT just about women… by Scott Erb

Scott Erb — Wed, 24 Oct 2012 18:29:03 +0000

Thank you! As a father, I do have a flexible schedule teaching at a university, while my wife (a CPA) does not. I take the kids to and from school, I deal with the cooking and a lot of housework. My wife has a stressful job, and in order to allow her to have quality time with the kids she can’t come home to a mess or demands to cook dinner!

My pet peeve has been magazines like Parenting who talk about “what mom’s need” as if dads were in another universe. The comment about going home to cook dinner was far more telling than the ‘women in binders’ bit that got so much play. We’re in a world where women are becoming equal to men in the work force and both spouses have to work. It’ll never be fair to either side if we can’t get rid of the idea that the issues are true only for women.

Comment on It’s NOT just about women… by Terri

Terri — Thu, 18 Oct 2012 02:07:13 +0000

Thanks so much for your comment Josh — these are exactly the reasons that I wrote this post!

Comment on It’s NOT just about women… by jdavis9207

jdavis9207 — Thu, 18 Oct 2012 01:56:00 +0000

While I was watching the debate for President of the United States, I was taken aback by that comment. As I sat on the couch with my wife, the first thing I said to her was “apparently the only place for women is in the home”. The majority of us hardworking people are not blessed with extraordinary wealth from our parents. We don’t get to go to the most expensive schools. We have to work our way from the bottom to the top. In today’s society, both spouses have to work to make this happen.

This is simply nonsense that women are the only one’s who need a flexible schedule so they can get home to take care of their kids and cook dinner for the family. My wife and I both work full-time. We both have to work to pay for our student loans (which gave us both good jobs) and the bills to take care of our family. When we get home from work, I cook while the other watches our 10 month old. When I am done, we switch. She eats and I watch our son. I get up in the middle of the night to take care of him while my wife watches him when I nap on the weekends. It’s a balance.

As a family man, I also need a flexible schedule. I never expect my wife to be the only one to come home from working hard all day to spend the rest of the evening taking care of the household and our child. We both take care of our son and in turn take care of each other. Issues that impact my wife, impact me. Women’s issues are not just women issues. They are family issues and we should all be making sure our women are taken care of. It’s good for us all.

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